How to Deal with an Aspergers Man
2. Tell your Aspergers partner how you are feeling, especially if you are angry, and why. Your partner may not understand your emotions and why you are reacting a certain way.
3. Learn what his interests are, and try to engage in activities focusing on those interests. Go on a few dates where social interaction isn’t necessarily the focus.
4. If your Aspergers partner talks in a confusing manner, like in riddles or using complex vocabulary, or doesn’t answer your questions directly, ask him for more clarification. Also, remember not to use riddles, jokes or sarcasm in the same way you would with someone who doesn’t have Aspergers. If you do, ask if he understood and then explain what you meant. Otherwise, he might be hurt by what you said or just be confused.
5. If your Aspergers partner has certain quirks, like not wanting to talk on the phone, understand that it may be related to Aspergers. Confront him about the issue if it bothers you, and explain why.
6. Ease him into large social situations, like parties or group outings. Understand if he is overwhelmed or decides not to go with you – he might prefer being alone or with less people.
7. Don’t be alarmed if your Aspergers man is confused by romantic gestures, like hugging or kissing. Stop if needed, but also try explaining what the gestures mean, or suggest going to a relationship counselor together so you can work on your partner’s relationship skills.
8. Don’t assume your Aspergers man is uninterested just because he isn’t telling you he likes you or finds you attractive. Decide what you think of him and let him know. After he is aware of your attraction and isn’t confused about nonverbal gestures and flirtation, it might be easier for him to decide if he feels the same way.
Living With Aspergers: Help for Couples