tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post5255127328686586124..comments2024-03-29T06:29:53.220-07:00Comments on Support & Education for Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Recent Comments from Disturbed NT Partners of Asperger's MenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-87616284831369098862018-06-27T15:35:08.754-07:002018-06-27T15:35:08.754-07:00Thanks for posting this. It's exactly what I a...Thanks for posting this. It's exactly what I am thinking all the time. Run, Forest, RUN!!! <br /><br />We've been together for 15 years and married for 10 years and it's getting worse and worse. <br /><br />The last couple of years I was very ill and bedridden, but HE was the one that changed the most in that situation. I ended up in a wheelchair and couldn't barely move, but he was the victim. He refused to go outside with me, so I had to stay inside for years or ask a friend or neighbor to take me outside for a walk when I had a few good hours.<br /><br />Not once did he encourage or comfort me, when I was crying. He was the one who was suffering the most, because his life was less fun. <br /><br />When I smile, he doesn't smile back.<br />We rarely have sex (so no pregnancy too...) unless I make an appointment (boy, how I hate that). No hugs, no long kisses, no touches, no compliments, no encouragement, no positive conversations, no feelings, no smiling at me, no real eye contact. On the other hand, he can express negative experiences or feelings very well.<br /><br />It feels like the real me is disappearing more and more because of this. I can not live with his ASS, but it's hard to leave, however I will one day. It's a long process... <br /><br />The saddest part is: He can't help it! He does everything he CAN to make me happy, but those are all material things. Holidays, expensive presents (when I ask for a breakfast in bed for my birthday for example), taking me out (since I can walk by myself again). <br /><br />I know it's not unwillingness, he gives me all he can. And that makes it hard. I am everything he has! No friends, no hobbies, just me and his work/money.<br /><br />When I tell him that I'm gonna leave one day, he tries to be intimate and sweet for a few days - or sometimes weeks, but as soon as I smile, he seems relieved and goes back into his own world of negativity and silence. <br /><br />I need therapy to handle this f*cking loneliness and to make sure it's not me... Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17288707020928302088noreply@blogger.com