tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post5909126626234140182..comments2024-03-28T05:44:03.100-07:00Comments on Support & Education for Adults on the Autism Spectrum: How To Deal With An Angry Asperger's HusbandUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-35547066246002446052023-11-14T20:34:45.009-08:002023-11-14T20:34:45.009-08:00Thank you Thank you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-18862469511321038252023-11-14T20:33:39.043-08:002023-11-14T20:33:39.043-08:00Am I in denial regarding my husband ? Why do I sti...Am I in denial regarding my husband ? Why do I still love him when he can control his anger at work and he is highly regarded in his field yet he is relentless with his anger burst and does not care about a child being present . Do I just avoid any true real relationship and just be shallow ? That is what I have to do in order to protect my child from witnessing the ugliness Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-14304892036625843022023-11-01T17:17:26.229-07:002023-11-01T17:17:26.229-07:00This is wonderful advice if you are unable to divo...This is wonderful advice if you are unable to divorce or separate from him. A lot of women are dependent on their husband's income every month and can't support themselves or their children financially. But, always have a backup plan if he becomes severely abusive with you and the children. Let your family and friends know your circumstances and the possibility of you needing a place to stay for awhile. Many women and children are in danger of being severely hurt by their own husbands. <br /><br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-81010966935658697122023-10-22T12:55:38.198-07:002023-10-22T12:55:38.198-07:00Sorry to hear that you have been going through thi...Sorry to hear that you have been going through this horrific time. You must feel horrified of what happens. I guess there are many thing in life he is not happy about and targets on you. All I can say that it’s not your fault at all. Sometime it’s easy to diluted blaming your self. Because you had hearing blames to you all the time. Sound like not he is not aware of how he made you feels. What ever condition he has. There are not excused to harm or hurts other being. How it’s would be if you asked him nicely could you please not scream or shout. Please communicated politely and let me know how can I make you happy. ? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-29537270253400822432023-09-02T17:53:23.838-07:002023-09-02T17:53:23.838-07:00How can you stay with this type of abuse? Get sup...How can you stay with this type of abuse? Get support ASP with a therapist for a way out. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-18607630093177051412023-07-25T18:42:40.525-07:002023-07-25T18:42:40.525-07:00My husband is high functioning. He has so many rep...My husband is high functioning. He has so many repetitive behaviors. Even his “tantrums” and outburst repeat on a monthly cycle. I literally just leave him be to work it out but he actively seeks a reason (usually irrational) for his feelings and then explodes on me. He says awful things, throws things and sometimes tries to hurt me like a young child might hurt someone during a tantrum. He then gaslights me as if he is some kind of victim, he will go so far as to text friends and family telling them that I just abused him. He just now came in a threw 4 giant jars of ice cold water on me and said he hates me so much. I don’t even know this person sometimes. This episode began 3 days ago and had been escalating. There is seemingly no reason for it… to me. The emotional hurt, and loneliness is overwhelming sometimes. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-22912006781597546392023-07-14T03:16:17.779-07:002023-07-14T03:16:17.779-07:00Hello, I’m currently in a relationship and I’ve r...Hello, I’m currently in a relationship and I’ve read this and I have been in tears, I can relate.. this is me! I just was on vacation and heard about this disorder from someone I met (their son on the cruise has it) and I said my God) this is why my boyfriend is this way) it was light was turned on…. He is undiagnosed. .. but I’ve I have googled and he has almost every symptom of a high functioning person of this disease…. And I simply don’t know what to do…. This really is just me sharing for the first time; as I needed to vent. Thank you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-86374101360184622402023-04-17T08:19:00.973-07:002023-04-17T08:19:00.973-07:00I can tell you this much, aspergers, bipolar or wh...I can tell you this much, aspergers, bipolar or whichever ''label'', If he EVER lays a finger on you, do not stay, do not excuse his behaviour as asd or any other mental disorder, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY, especially if you have children, there's no excuse to stay after that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-11867081432691577962023-03-30T15:47:20.341-07:002023-03-30T15:47:20.341-07:00Oh my god - I recognise every single sentence - wh...Oh my god - I recognise every single sentence - where from her ? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-78862400866092283442022-05-08T21:10:29.683-07:002022-05-08T21:10:29.683-07:00I'm in the same boat as the others who have sh...I'm in the same boat as the others who have shared their world. My husband and I recently retired and are spending way too much time together. There is so much time for disagreements and misunderstandings everyday. I don't know if I'm leaving him or not. He's very stubborn and blames me for everything. He honestly doesn't understand what I say when I try working things out with him. I now know he's capable of the most violent meltdowns I have ever witnessed. He has been verbally, emotionally and physically abusive towards me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-7492675914701619442019-07-28T15:30:17.320-07:002019-07-28T15:30:17.320-07:00Thank you for Sharing. In my case my wife (non AS)...Thank you for Sharing. In my case my wife (non AS) demanded we take steps for things to get better or we would have to separate. In that list was therapy, individual and couples, medication, reading/YouTube on AS - things like Journal of Best Practices by David Finch, allowing each other to take healthy space when needed and reframing hurtful words. Another aspect we worked on is increasing positive aspects of our relationship like cuddling more, and me using more words of positive affirmation toward her.<br /><br />Little by little we made progress, enough that she has stayed, and while things are not perfect, she says there has been noticable improvement and she feels more loved than before.Aspiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09035498008993510366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-70498094154005697702019-01-06T16:39:04.042-08:002019-01-06T16:39:04.042-08:00I'm nearly in tears. I have felt so alone in a...I'm nearly in tears. I have felt so alone in all this. Just to hear you all is a blessing. I feel like I have to put on a mask for everyone. My husband was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 1998. We've been together for 16 years. We have children. One of them kings in the process of being tested for autism which he is already taking medication. When I realized my husband was having the same symptoms I thought to get him tested to. All the verbal and emotional abuse, the blaming the name calling, it's been so hard. I'm ready for separation until he can get the help he needs. I want him to actually understand the severity of damage that has Behavior causes. My son acts just like him with except instead of words and anger, he puts his hands on me. I'm ready for the separation I'm just scared to tell my husband, do you have any advice?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00816318860062247381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-62303916956002083482018-12-11T18:25:24.721-08:002018-12-11T18:25:24.721-08:00For me, a first step was to accept that I have a r...For me, a first step was to accept that I have a real disorder (severe AS)plus major depression and anxiety. I could not have a chance at a normal life without the help of my wife. She is almost saint like. It's been a long and painful road. Today, I have a strong support system: my wife, my GP, my psychiatrist, my medication, <br />access to 24/7 mental health care hotline if I feel like a meltdown is coming on or need to talk to someone besides my wife. But the first step was for me to internalize the reality that I could not fix myself and needed help. If the AS male is not willing or able to try to get help for his problems, then it's not going to work. High Functioning Autismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09180716329457053722noreply@blogger.com