- does not seem to mind being with people – but at the same time – does not mind being by himself
- does not seek social interaction with others (unless he wants something), nor does he actively avoid social situations
- desires romantic relationships, but does not have the skills to find and keep a partner
- does not learn social skills and social taboos by observing others
- is self-centered
- lacks common sense when making social decisions
- lacks reciprocity in interactions, since conversations often revolve around self
- may try very hard to have friends, but can’t keep them
- avoids virtually all forms of social interaction
3. Social-Skills Training: A major goal of social skills training is teaching Aspergers adults about the verbal and nonverbal behaviors involved in social interactions. There are many Aspies who have never been taught such interpersonal skills (e.g., making "small talk" in social settings, the importance of good eye contact during a conversation, etc.). In addition, many of these individuals have not learned to "read" the many subtle cues contained in social interactions (e.g., how to tell when someone wants to change the topic of conversation or shift to another activity). Social skills training helps a person with Aspergers to learn to interpret these and other social signals, so that he or she can determine how to act appropriately in the company of other people in a variety of different situations.
Social skills training makes the assumption that when individuals improve their social skills or change selected behaviors, they will raise their self-esteem and increase the likelihood that others will respond favorably to them. Aspies learn to change their social behavior patterns by practicing selected behaviors in individual or group therapy sessions. Another goal of social skills training is improving the person’s ability to function in everyday social situations. Social skills training can help the person to work on specific issues (e.g., improving one's telephone manners) that may interfere with his or her job or daily life.