A lot of adults with Asperger's (high functioning autism) live alone. Many seem to prefer it that way. Living alone can be boring or enjoyable. It all comes down to the decisions you make and the way you run your single-person household. Below are some ways to maximize your solitary lifestyle. The important factors you will discover involve quality, quantity, cleanliness, indulgence, and socialization.
Tips for adult “Aspies” who live alone:
1. Start journaling. Take a few moments each day to record that day’s experiences. Start with those little things in your life for which you are most grateful. Focus on what you have and what’s going right – not on what you don’t have and what’s going wrong.
2. Don’t become a hermit. When you live alone, it can be easy to hibernate in your home. Make it a priority to plan a couple of nights out each week to keep a healthy balance of staying social and having your “alone time.”
3. Express your style. Have some fun with your home or apartment and paint the walls in your favorite colors and arrange the furniture how you see fit. You don't have to worry about compromising your style by living alone, so embrace your sense of design.
4. Get a pet. If you miss having some company in your apartment, look into adopting a pet.
5. Get in shape. Go to the gym or play tennis or golf. Be an avid walker or hiker. Enjoy yoga or dancing.
6. Get to know your neighbors. Establish a sense of community with your neighborhood. Whether you need a cup of sugar, or have an emergency, it's nice to know who's next door.
7. Invite friends for dinner. If you’re inclined to cooking, share your culinary delights with a few close friends.
8. Keep your house or apartment clean. It's easy to keep dishes piled up in the sink or leave your shoes in front of the door when you don't live with anyone else. Try to establish good habits and set aside time to clean up and make your environment a space you're proud of.
9. Learn a new skill. Many colleges and universities offer courses as “audits.” You don’t even have to pay for the course because there are no credits earned, just information and new knowledge. These courses are offered in a variety of disciplines from science to photography.
10. Read. If you want to grow and change into an even better individual than you already are, consider reading biographies of successful people or self-improvement books which teach you skills for living better and with more purpose.
11. Revisit the hobby you gave up long ago. Did you used to sing in a band, go to concerts or plays, work in stained glass, or paint? Did you used to have a green thumb? Then, plant a garden.
12. Stock your fridge and pantry with healthy, fresh, and delicious foods.
13. Take full advantage of your solitary lifestyle. One of the best parts about living alone is that you don't have to answer to anybody …you get to make all of the decisions. You can decorate the place the way that you want, cook your favorite foods for dinner, or simply do something that you wouldn't necessarily be able to do if you had a partner or spouse that you had to compromise with.
14. Turn off the TV. The television really doesn’t “keep you company” – it keeps you stagnant. An occasional show with half decent content can be enjoyable, but there are too many people who watch fictional characters every week as these characters attempt to unscrew their screwed-up lives. Instead of watching someone else “having a life” – create a life for YOU!
15. Turn your house or apartment into a retreat. Single-person households have a particular advantage as retreats because they are always places where you can get away from it all. When returning home every night, you don’t have to worry about being hindered by roomies or significant others; therefore, you can turn your place into a super, indulgent retreat.
If you are going solo, you’re not alone! Recently released census data shows that well over 31 million people live by their lonesome. That means that over a quarter of people live on their own. However, a growing body of research shows that people who live by themselves may be at a higher risk for depression and alcoholism. So, you will definitely want to follow some – or all – of the tips above in order to stay upbeat and positive about your living situation!
I have lived on my own for 10 years now, and for the past couple months been working at home too. However I rarely become lonely, because I have learned how to develop a social life for myself. I have learned about social attraction and what types of socialising suits me best, and as a musician I perform at local gigs and open mikes and am able to network with other musicians and develop a social life through this. If I have a few social things lined up, I am usually quite happy being on my own for most of the day, or all day. I work from home the hours that suit me, and regularly go out for a walk around a local park, as living in a small top floor flat with no garden means I need somewhere to wander around to collect my thoughts. Despite the fact I used to work with people, I was certainly more lonely 10 years ago than I am today. It is taken time to learn social skills and attraction but in the process I have identified exactly how someone with asperger's needs to learn the skills that will result in a dynamic social life.