Some men with ASD level one [Asperger’s] have significant anger-control issues. Anger may be a common reaction experienced when coming to terms with problems in relationships, employment, and other areas in life affected by ASD.
Some common causes of angry outbursts in people on the spectrum include:
- Other’s behavior (e.g., insensitive comments, being ignored)
- Intolerance of imperfections in others
- Having routines and order disrupted
- Difficulties with employment despite being intelligent in many areas
- A build-up of anxiety
- Being swamped by multiple tasks
- Sensory over-stimulation
- Relationship conflict
- your physical state (e.g., pain, tiredness)
- your mental state (e.g., existing frustration, confusion)
- the environment (e.g., too much stimulation, major changes of routine)
- how well (or poorly) you're being treated by co-workers
6. What’s the big goal? Identify why you would like to manage your anger more successfully. Identify what benefits you expect in everyday living from improving your anger-control skills.
- Stop and think before reacting to the situation (e.g., “My goal right now is to improve my ability to cope with anger when I am waiting in long lines”).
- Challenge your inaccurate or negative thoughts (e.g., “The service here is so inefficient. Why can’t they hurry up? I'm going to get pissed any moment now. WAIT. Stop thinking this!”).
- Create your new thought (e.g., “Everyone is probably aggravated by this long line – even the cashier serving us. I can either come back later, or I can wait here and think of something pleasant”).
Resources for Neurodiverse Couples:==> Online Group Therapy for Men with ASD