- The Actor: This individual desires inter-personal relationships with others and has learned enough social skills over time to pass as a “neurotypical” (i.e., he or she can “act” like someone who is not on the autism spectrum).
- The Outcast: This individual desires inter-personal relationships with others, but has difficulty finding and maintaining friendships due to a lack of social skills. This person really wants to “fit-in,” but usually gets ostracized from “the group” due to his or her “odd” behavior.
- The Loner: This individual does NOT desire inter-personal relationships (except with a very safe/close family member or friend) and could care less about “fitting-in” with “the group.”
In this article, we will look at the “Loner”…
- (a) almost always chooses solitary activities,
- (b) appears indifferent to praise or criticism from others,
- (c) has little interest in having sexual relations with a partner,
- (d) lacks close friends other than first-degree relatives,
- (e) neither desires nor enjoys inter-personal relationships (sometimes including being part of a family),
- (f) shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affect, and
- (g) takes pleasure in only one or two (solitary) activities.
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