Be creative in the combination of interventions you use, and simplify your life.
Here are some general ideas regarding interventions for adults with AS and HFA:
1. A Cognitive-Behavioral approach to therapy is strongly indicated.
2. A slower-paced environment will likely be more tolerable and allow for a greater sense of comfort and competence.
3. A therapist with an awareness of AS and HFA (or interest in learning about it with you) is essential.
4. A variety of therapies can be helpful to adults with AS and HFA, depending on the individual.
5. Advocate for environmental changes at work or home. If you are more comfortable, the people around you will be as well.
6. Teach others about the "disorder" (actually, I like to think of it as simply "a different way of thinking"). Grown-ups with AS and HFA are pioneers in educating others in their families, workplaces and communities.
7. Attend a group where social skills are explicitly taught.
8. Know your weakness, and seek professional “life coaching” to work on those areas.
9. Communicate with those around you about your need for periodic “down-time” (i.e., time alone to recharge your social battery), but do not use it as an excuse to avoid participation in family or other activities.
10. Contact Career One-Stop Centers (federally funded centers designed to help people learn new, marketable skills, identify jobs and prepare for interviewing).
11. Contact the vocational rehabilitation agency in your state. With an official diagnosis of AS or HFA, you may be entitled to service.
12. Disclose your disorder to others strategically. Only share the information that is required for that time and place, and consult with a trusted person to determine what to disclose if you’re unsure.
13. Heightened sensory sensitivities may make particular environments unpleasant or intolerable. Thus, change lighting, decrease noise, and wear comfortable clothing.
14. Hire people to do the things you’re not good at, which may include, but not limited to: (a) money management, (b) housework, and (c) organization and bookkeeping.
15. Join Social Groups with other AS and HFA adults. This decreases isolation, and with practice, increases comfort with other people -- and may improve social skills.
16. Know what AS and HFA is in general and how it affects you specifically.
17. Know your areas of difficulty.
18. Know your strengths and build on them.
19. Listen to trusted family or friends.
20. Medication can be helpful in decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety that often accompany AS and HFA.
21. Meet others with AS and HFA, listen to and support one another.
22. People with AS and HFA tend to connect most comfortably around shared interests (small talk is less essential in interest-based groups).
23. Physical and emotional comfort are essential to individuals with AS and HFA.
24. Psychodynamic psychotherapy is generally less helpful.
25. Read about AS and HFA from a variety of perspectives.
26. Sensory and social demands of daily life make more down-time essential for adults with AS and HFA.
27. Stop the blame game – blaming yourself or others is common and not helpful.
28. Strengthen your areas of difficulty or minimize their presence.
29. Work with a Life Coach that will assist with (a) concrete skills-building and goal direction, (b) independent living skills, (c) employment-related skills, and (d) social skills.
30. Be patient with yourself as you experiment with different coping strategies.