The cycle often looks similar to this:
- "I never get it right. So, I'm in a constant state of either trying harder or simply giving up" [thinking error].
- "Trying harder and/or giving up doesn't fix my problems [anxiety], and is wearing me out" [depression].
- "Things will just get worse from here on, I guess" [setting up a self-fulfilling prophesy].
On a related note, your Asperger's husband would benefit greatly from our ongoing men's group (diagnosed with ASD, or otherwise). In these groups, we take a deep dive into the issues of anxiety, depression, thinking errors, social skills, building self-esteem, and much more.
Resources for Neurodiverse Couples:==> Online Group Therapy for Men with ASD==> Videos to help you understand your partner on the autism spectrum...