It’s true that social skills can be taught. It’s never too soon to start learning how to get along with others - and it’s never too late to sharpen your skills. Start with the most basic ones first, and keep sharpening these skills over time.
The main ones would be as follows:
- Active listening
- Asking for help
- Beginning a conversation
- Cooperation (e.g., sticking to rules and going about activities without disturbing others)
- Empathy (e.g., resonating with the feelings of others and trying to make others feel better)
- Engagement (e.g., making friends and actively including others in activities)
- Giving Constructive Criticism in a Positive manner
- Intimacy (e.g., developing emotional closeness with others)
- Inviting people to things
- Paying attention to tone of voice and speed of talking during conversations
- Responding positively to negative feedback rather than viewing it as criticism
- Responsibility (e.g., good behavior in the absence of supervision)
- Saying ‘no’ (e.g., setting limits with your time and energy without being rude)
- Self-control (e.g., regulating emotions in difficult or upsetting social situations)
- Small Talk to Build Connection
- Social confidence (e.g., asserting yourself in social situations)
- Using eye contact
1. Close relationships-- The most important benefit of being socially skilled over time is the development of meaningful relationships, which drives many other positive outcomes.
2. Decrease loneliness-- People who are more likely to take social risks (e.g., introducing themselves to a stranger or initiating conversation with people) report lower levels of loneliness.
3. Job performance-- Social skills positively predict job performance in workplaces where individuals experience low levels of support from their organization. Social skills are believed to be especially useful for people who need to seek cooperation and resources to perform well.
4. Mental well-being-- Socially withdrawn behavior and social skills problems have been linked to symptoms of depression.
5. Physical health-- Having solid social skills increases your chances of having more high-quality relationships, which benefits your physical health in many ways (e.g., reducing your risk of heart disease and cancer).
6. Reduce victimization-- People with social skill deficits are more likely to experience peer victimization (e.g., in the workplace). Conversely, people who are more cooperative and prosocial are more likely to step in and help others who are being mistreated.
Every social situation is different, and there is not just one “right” way to handle any of them. But, when viewed through the lens of these core competencies, most social situations become a lot more adaptable – and enjoyable.
Mark Hutten, M.A.
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