Resources for Neurodiverse Couples:==> Online Group Therapy for Men with ASD
Comment from a husband on the spectrum:
I find it to be sometimes a contrast of ASD vs Needy folks. When you say “ my needs met “ what needs specifically do you mean? I think it’s a two-fold issue. He may not be meeting your needs, but that doesn’t mean that your needs are reasonable just on face value. I think not enough NT women are advised to learn to self-soothe -to meet their own needs to a degree. We should never Be dependent on another person to be happy. The other person should enhance the happiness we already have. That’s not me letting him off the hook. That’s me putting you on the hook with him. It’s a two way street. Always.
Suggesting that asd guys remain single is nonsense. I’m married 21 years to my best friend. She’s quite independent, and we’re pretty equally yolked as far as needs met / meeting needs. We mostly meet our own, and when we fall short the other kicks in …. The only thing she needs to do to assure this is clearly tell me what she wants. No 3 ways, church circles, or one night stands needed. That’s just irresponsible advice. Sorry. It had to be said. I realize some NTs lash out because of poor expectations and a bad result. I’m sorry for that. But like dr Phil says, "There’s two sides to that pancake."