Are you an adult with High-Functioning Autism or Asperger's? Are you in a relationship with someone on the autism spectrum? Are you struggling emotionally, socially, spiritually or otherwise? Then you've come to the right place. We are here to help you in any way we can. Kick off your shoes and stay awhile...

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You Are Love At The Core of Your Being: Message to People on the Spectrum

Resources for Neurodiverse Couples:

==> Online Group Therapy for Men with ASD

==> Online Group Therapy for NT Wives

==> Living with ASD: eBook and Audio Instruction for Neurodiverse Couples 

==> One-on-One Counseling for Struggling Individuals & Couples Affected by ASD

==> Online Group Therapy for Couples Affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder

==> Cassandra Syndrome Recovery for NT Wives

==> ASD Men's MasterClass: Social-Skills Training and Emotional-Literacy Development

Comment from a husband on the spectrum:

I find it to be sometimes a contrast of ASD vs Needy folks. When you say “ my needs met “ what needs specifically do you mean?  I think it’s a two-fold issue.  He may not be meeting your needs, but that doesn’t mean that your needs are reasonable just on face value.  I think not enough NT women are advised to learn to self-soothe -to meet their own needs to a degree.  We should never Be dependent on another person to be happy. The other person should enhance the happiness we already have. That’s not me letting him off the hook.  That’s me putting you on the hook with him.  It’s a two way street.  Always.  

Suggesting that asd guys remain single is nonsense.  I’m married 21 years to my best friend.  She’s quite independent, and we’re pretty equally yolked as far as needs met / meeting needs. We mostly meet our own, and when we fall short the other kicks in …. The only thing she needs to do to assure this is clearly tell me what she wants.  No 3 ways, church circles, or one night stands needed. That’s just irresponsible advice. Sorry. It had to be said. I realize some NTs lash out because of poor expectations and a bad result. I’m sorry for that.  But like dr Phil says, "There’s two sides to that pancake."

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