tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post1110936391489257002..comments2024-03-28T16:09:12.437-07:00Comments on Support & Education for Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Dealing with Your Aspergers Husband: Tips for SpousesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-14121278390444833872023-12-30T09:35:03.912-08:002023-12-30T09:35:03.912-08:00You either have grounds for divorce due to marital...You either have grounds for divorce due to marital abandonment by an unbeliever ( very few aspires are believers or they would be open to repentance and change in many areas they can control) Your husband has already left you emotionally, spiritually and in some cases physically ( withdraw sexually and/or wife cannot be with him like this with absolutely no real meaningful emotional connection). This is marital abandonment and can be backed up by 2 Corinthians 7:15. The other option is to fast and pray, if you are a believer, for deliverance of spouse in areas that are keeping you from having a real marriage, as God wants for you. The Asperger husband would need to be a believer so that they can stay delivered. There is evidence in Bible in Mark 9 that a child had been delivered from autism/epilepsy. Jesus said this spirit comes out through prayer and fasting. I am not sure if this would be applied to a resistant, unbelieving adult. These are the only options to be healthy spiritually and not become chronically sick. If you separate/divorce the ASD spouse, there is opportunity still for repentance or change. If your ASD spouse is resistant to change and deliverance, you can divorce. Lastly Jesus may have called us to suffer for him but that is not His will in a marital covenantAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-48271325181068422842023-11-24T07:10:47.514-08:002023-11-24T07:10:47.514-08:00I realise my first husband was an aspie. I have a ...I realise my first husband was an aspie. I have a grandchild who is almost certainly on the spectrum. My second husband is also an aspie although it took a psychologist to make me realise that. So why do I keep torturing myself? Looking back I believe my mother or father or both are/were aspies and that I have become so used to being around them I just naturally fall into these doomed relationships. I feel like I am going insane but at least on an intellectual level I understand I am not really insane. What I find annoying is the lack of empathy from anybody. To the rest of the world, I am the whinger and they appear super friendly!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-34858024078686393932023-10-12T03:34:10.239-07:002023-10-12T03:34:10.239-07:00Married 24 to an Aspie, just really figured out th...Married 24 to an Aspie, just really figured out this year although the signs have been there all along(I knew something was wayyyy different about him but I couldn’t place what it was) honestly I feel very relieved to know and I know there are many challenges ahead and we already have 4 children ranging from 24 -7 years old. They definitely have lifelong emotional challenges regarding future relationships ti overcome but we are choosing to recognize this and get them the counseling they need( by this I mean me, aspie spouse doesn’t see a need) but it is there and I will do whatever it takes for them to heal emotionally from both of us. I’ve always tried showing love but when you are not getting the support you need from your spouse after so many years I have tended to shut myself off from them sometimes too. Aspie life is very difficult, I’m not here to deny it. I just desire strongly to find some form of making this work. Despite 24. Years I love him(not the same as I did at the beginning but I do love him) my kids love their father and I know in his own way he loves all of them as well. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-61186443696883128712023-08-18T20:28:32.502-07:002023-08-18T20:28:32.502-07:00Most people with ASD (particularly men with high-f...Most people with ASD (particularly men with high-functioning ASD) are not marriage material period. You don’t always have to feel empathy to show it. Empathy is a choice and we’re just accepting unacceptable behavior just because they don’t feel it’s fair that they may have to work much harder at having a healthy relationship. They will not accept that life isn’t fair so the other person is expected to work around all of their issues. If a dog can show empathy, there is no excuse for any person not toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-49408944323211665022023-08-12T06:06:48.263-07:002023-08-12T06:06:48.263-07:00Yes it is a struggle. The other people is the answ...Yes it is a struggle. The other people is the answer. The other. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-82117222833823887352023-08-04T02:10:39.035-07:002023-08-04T02:10:39.035-07:00I think I am married to an aspie as well. Been mar...I think I am married to an aspie as well. Been married 16 years and I kept delaying having children as I was constantly trying to figure out what now, when will he be negative again etc etc. I think the reason I did not get divorce was that I was deeply depressed and did not have any energy to proceed. Then I got pregnant and have a little baby girl now. Her being subjected to emotional roller coaster worries me a lot and now I do not know if he can coparent well. I feel very isolated and helpless. I am glad I found this blog, I hope it helps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-80714570629550213382022-10-05T14:13:19.418-07:002022-10-05T14:13:19.418-07:00I too, have been married to an aspie, my oldest da...I too, have been married to an aspie, my oldest daughter has nothing to to with us in any real way. I have always been alone, figuring out what was the right thing to do. He has always called me names. When I went back to college, around 2000 and had a few psychology classes I finally understood who my husband is. It doesn't get any easier, he has no capacity for empathy or love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-8773637089382541652020-10-18T22:52:31.188-07:002020-10-18T22:52:31.188-07:00Been married to a aspie husband for almost 50 year...Been married to a aspie husband for almost 50 years and it never gets easier. All the suggestions are worth trying but at the end you will always feel lone with no intimacy or connection. Your children will feel the lack of connection with them and often feel abandoned and will act out. Think long and hard about a life with an aspie husband.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13904665619393279664noreply@blogger.com