tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post2032537451428380904..comments2024-03-18T07:20:14.358-07:00Comments on Support & Education for Adults on the Autism Spectrum: Husband Refuses To Go For an Assessment of ASDUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-22295926858103611112023-09-05T06:38:38.370-07:002023-09-05T06:38:38.370-07:00I’ve put in 24 years, almost 30 if you count the y...I’ve put in 24 years, almost 30 if you count the years before we were married. My husband is 71 -yrs-old now. I came to realize he had Aspergers 8 years ago. I finally had an explanation for all of the hurt & heartache he had caused me up until then. I’ve been begging him for 8 years to learn about Aspergers in the hope that somehow we could save our marriage. Just yesterday I asked him once again to please accept the fact that Aspergers has destroyed our marriage, and that I am not to blame. His response after all these years of suffering : “Fuck you !! I do not have Aspergers!!” A “fucking waste” for sure. If your husband refuses to take any responsibility for the state of your marriage, it is time to leave. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-85167412387213746402023-09-04T15:49:45.753-07:002023-09-04T15:49:45.753-07:00Jesus. 52 years. What a fucking waste.Jesus. 52 years. What a fucking waste.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-76983597284790412742023-06-16T09:11:14.091-07:002023-06-16T09:11:14.091-07:00I’ve been learning about ASD and its symptoms for ...I’ve been learning about ASD and its symptoms for the past decade. My husband has all the symptoms and the miscommunication or no communication can and has taken over our lives. It also interferes with parenting and just simple day to day tasks and living. My suggestion is to focus on the positives (there are many) keep educating yourself and those around you on ASD. Keeping it a secret or not addressing it doesn’t help anyone. Like the previous commenter, I am also the cause of all our marital problems. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-75818358167604537972023-05-09T16:15:32.014-07:002023-05-09T16:15:32.014-07:00I give you credit for at least being open.. to lea...I give you credit for at least being open.. to learn about Asperger’s and having the self awareness. Working on some of the problems that were getting in the way of having a mutually gratifying marriage is hard but so worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-84003941636207516532022-12-15T08:56:34.371-08:002022-12-15T08:56:34.371-08:00It took my wife 52 years to come to the point of a...It took my wife 52 years to come to the point of actually leaving. We were within weeks, if not days, when things started to turn around. I listened to her telling me I was hurting her for at least 30 years without it registering in my brain. I've only been identified for 3 years now, but the diagnosis really changed me. It gave me the framework from which I could make the changes my wife needed to see. Without that framework, I was flying blind. I have always been autistic and I will always be autistic. I cannot change that. But I can make the choice to manage my autistic traits. I can make the choice to change my attitudes and behaviors within my autistic framework.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-71320028829935272812022-12-05T00:39:18.115-08:002022-12-05T00:39:18.115-08:00I left after 14 years. He wasn’t interested in get...I left after 14 years. He wasn’t interested in getting US help. I have to ask though, because I don’t know…if you constantly tell someone that they’re hurting you, does it not compute? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-212330848782074107.post-47501591365078258562022-09-14T22:51:19.518-07:002022-09-14T22:51:19.518-07:00If you don’t care about having a partner with comp...If you don’t care about having a partner with compassion or passion, run! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com